Happy Wednesday. I hope everyone had a safe and happy long weekend. Dalton wrote a cute post on Sunday. If you haven’t checked it out, click here and give it some love. Today, I wanted to share some things I have been pondering the last few weeks. I have had the extra time and I’ve been thinking about some of the struggles I went through in my twenties and what I would advise my younger myself. As always, I wanted to share some of those thoughts and struggles with you guys to hopefully help you. ENJOY!
1. Stop Rushing
It’s easy to take time for granted when you are young. You’ll get there, enjoy where you are because it doesn’t last forever.
2. Don’t Be Afraid to Fall Flat on Your Face
It will happen. You will fail in your life. Don’t worry it builds character and it’ll make you stronger in the future. Every failure will teach you something, stop and listen.
3. Being Emotional Doesn’t Make You Weak
This is something I struggled with tremendously when I was younger. I constantly thought if I cried or got emotional that I was weak and couldn’t handle situations. That is untrue. If you feel things deeper than most other people and you can openly show that emotion, this makes you incredibly strong.
“Today is the oldest you’ve ever been, and the youngest you’ll ever be again.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
4. Know Yourself
This seems like a silly thing to say. How do you not know yourself? In my twenties, I lost myself and I wasn’t being true to myself. I had to do some reflecting within, to understand who I was and what I stood for. There were a couple of outlets I took advantage of to find myself. One is a DNA test through 23andMe. The other being different personality tests such as Myers-Briggs and the Enneagram test. All three test gave me the knowledge about myself I was searching for and the answers to why I behave the way I do. Knowledge is power.
5. Happiness Is Not a Destination
The age-old answer to what do you want to be when you grow up? HAPPY! We all need to remember that happiness is not a destination, it’s a feeling, it’s a state of being. So many of us get wrapped up in “if I get this promotion or marry the perfect person or have a baby … then I’ll be happy.” Happiness at the end of the day is a choice. You have already reached happiness just choose to be that way.
6. Don’t Settle
Know what you want and how you want to be treated. A relationship should not make you less than yourself. Remember that love can be blinding, listen to your friends and family they have your best interest in mind.
7. Your Path Doesn’t Have to Look Like Anyone Else’s
Another hard lesson I learned in my twenties. I thought everyone graduated high school, went to University, got the perfect job, got married and had a baby; all before 25 years of age. Fifty years ago, this may have been exactly how it went for most people. However, if that is not your path in 2020 that is totally fine. It’s your journey through life and it doesn’t have to look remotely close to anyone else’s.
8. “What other people think of me is none of my business” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Eleanor said it best with this quote. I’ve been a people pleaser for as long as I can remember. Not everyone is going to like you and that’s ok. Spend time being the best you can be and leave the rest behind.
9. Be Kind to Yourself
It is important that that little voice in your head does not get the best of you. Notice negative self-talk and try to change it as best as you can. I use the motto “would I say this to my best friend?” If not, you should not be saying it to yourself. Don’t let you tear you down.
10. Let It Go
The hardest and most important thing about growth is letting things go. Let go of the toxic relationships, let go of the hurt in the past, just let it all go so you can make room for the positivity in your life. It’ll never be easy to let people, things or memories go but it is essential. If they are not bringing you joy or helping you grow let them go.
That is all the reflection I will do for now. Your twenties are a magical time to find yourself and grow, without a ton of responsibility. I could go on and on about the lessons I have learned in my twenties. But, I don’t want to bore you all with my struggles. Please, everyone, stay safe and healthy as we slowly get back to some normalcy in the world. I will talk to you all next week, same time, the same place.