Welcome back to another Wednesday with yours truly. I hope everyone is doing well and keeping sane this week. If not, I have just the post for you. I have been feeling a little more anxious than I have throughout this entire experience. As things start to take a turn towards normalcy, I find myself feeling heavier. This is a normal feeling with everything that has happened and as it continues to develop. Today, I wanted to bring you guys some tips on ways I ease this heaviness and calm my anxious thoughts.
I would like to give a disclaimer that I am not a psychologist or an expert in this field. It is something that I have struggled with throughout my life and want to share my remedies with you guys.
Prioritize yourself and your Feelings
I am a notorious people pleaser and can be a pushover at times. I am working on this. However, in hard times I tend to put myself aside and focus on others and their needs. I must remind myself that it is important to listen to the way I feel and really prioritize myself when things are tough. It’s beautiful to want to help other people but, always remember to give yourself one hundred percent first. This is not selfish; this is taking care of yourself.
Create a Schedule
Set a realistic schedule for yourself. I find that being prepared and having a direction for my day reduces the anxiety I feel. Do not pack your days as full as you can because you will become overwhelmed. Instead, set 3 goals for the day, so that it still has direction but it’s not too much to handle. Prioritize the sleep you are getting, recharging your body and your mind can help reduce anxiety and stress.
As we all know exercise creates endorphins in your brain which makes you happy. This in itself can reduce stress and anxiety. Also, exercising can be an outlet to get out frustration in a healthy way that is productive.
You’re going to be okay. Breathe and remember that you’ve been in this place before. You’ve been this uncomfortable and anxious and scared. And you’ve survived. Breathe and know that you can survive this too. These feelings can’t break you. They’re painful and debilitating, but you can sit with them and eventually they will pass. Maybe not immediately, but sometime soon, they are going to fade and when they do, you’ll look back at this moment and laugh for having doubted your resilience. I know it feels unbearable right now but keep breathing, again and again.
This will pass. I promise it will pass”
– Danielle Koepke
This is more of a tip for when you are in those moments when you feel your chest getting tight. This is when I start to feel the anxiety building and I take the deepest breath I possibly can. This stops your mind from thinking about what is making you anxious. Focus your thoughts on your breathing. Repeat breathing very deeply until you feel that the anxiety lift. This usually takes about a minute but differs for everyone and every situation.
Acknowledging Negative Self-Talk
We all have that voice in our head that doubts us and tells us we aren’t good enough. I am not telling you to completely change your self-talk because it is a process. I think just acknowledging the negative things you say to yourself is the first step. It’s so subconscious that sometimes we don’t even realize how negative we are to ourselves. So, acknowledge it and then work on changing it slowly.
I have praised journaling many times on this blog. I love journaling and it has become a crucial part of my routine. My best tip for starting or coming back to journaling is to write, no structure! Write your thoughts, about your day, anything and everything. It’ll help you work out your feelings and give validation to them by writing them down. It is unbelievably therapeutic when feeling stressed or anxious.
Talk to Someone
Please let someone know how you are doing. There have been so many times when I call up a friend and just honestly say “I am not doing well today”. It is crucial when battling stress and anxiety to be open about how you are feeling. It’s also liberating to let out the heaviness you feel instead of keeping it all inside. There are many resources online for therapists if you do not want to talk to family or friends. Better Help is there for you with online private counselling with licensed professionals. Talk to someone, anyone.
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
– William James
Less Caffeine, More Water
I know cutting out the morning coffee sounds excruciating. However, if you suffer from anxiety that morning cup of glory could be causing worsening symptoms. Cutting out caffeine can have so many health benefits, especially when it comes to easing anxiety and stress.
Give yourself an entire day to pamper yourself. It’s a great way to reset and rejuvenate your body, mind and soul. Slow down, light some candles, draw a bath, and relax. Rest and relaxation are the best remedies when it comes to anxiety and stress.
Limit Your Exposure to Media
Don’t get me wrong it is important to stay up to date with the news and what is going on in the world. Especially with everything going on right now. It can become overwhelming very quickly though. So, limiting the amount consumed can decrease the degree of anxiety and stress you get from it. Check the news once a day and stay informed but not overloaded.
I hope you found some of these tips helpful in this difficult time. At the end of the day, I just want you guys to know you are not alone if you are feeling anxious or stressed. Keep your head up, we will make it through this stronger than ever before. Feel free to reach out to us at any time, we would be thrilled to respond. I hope you all have a wonderful week and a healthy, safe long weekend. I’ll talk to you all next week!