Happy Thursday! This week I wanted to take a different approach and talk from one side of the relationship. We all know that men and women have different needs. Especially when it comes to relationships and what they need out of that relationship. I have compiled a list of 7 things a wife needs from her husband regularly. Of course, this is only one side of the coin and I know there are things that a husband needs from his wife. Hopefully, I can convince Dalton to write the other side as I am curious. So, stay tuned for that but for now let’s get into the things your wife needs from you.
“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer
She Needs Support
Men walk beside your wife not in front or behind her. Treat her as your equal not like she is less than you. This shows that you believe in her and have the confidence in her to do whatever she sets out to do. When you have someone who believes in you wholeheartedly, you in turn feel inspired and more motivated to be your best self. This is a partnership at the end of the day. It’s important for both parties to be supportive of each other’s dreams and ambitions.
Compliment Her Regularly
We all have bad days where we don’t feel our best. Small compliments do not go unnoticed and can turn your entire day around. So, men start complimenting your wife on a regular basis. Compliment her on dinner, on her hair, how thin she is looking, the list goes on. It’s the little things in life that women really hold on to. Be the husband who builds her up not tear her down.
She Needs Recognition
It is so easy to go through life on autopilot doing the same thing day in and day out. We fly by life not recognizing or appreciating the things that people do for us. Stop now and think about all the amazing things your wife does for you on a daily. Have you told her you appreciate that she does that? No, well go find her and tell her right now. It is crucial to tell the people you love how much they are appreciated and recognize all the little things they do for you.
She Needs You Not to Shut Down
Since young age men have been told that they should not cry or show emotion. We need to get out of this habit and teach young boys it is ok to show emotion and feel things deeply. As these boys grow into men they shut down when things get tough finding it difficult to open up and discuss their feelings. However, when in a relationship it can be detrimental to not discuss feelings and emotions especially during disagreements. Just remember before shutting down to communicate that you need time to gather yourself and you will come back to this topic/discussion. This will help your wife understand where you are coming from and know you are not intentionally shutting down.
She Needs Quality Time
We all have obligations and distractions that take up 90 percent of our day. So, on the weekend or one night during the week make sure you make time for her. Spend time making dinner together, laughing, talking about your day and just enjoying each other’s company. As I said earlier it is so easy to go through life on autopilot, be intentional with your time and carve out some for your beautiful wife. Making this effort and surprising your wife with your time can really change the dynamic of your relationship.
She Needs Affection
A lot of times at the beginning of a relationship there is an abundance of affection. The hand holding, spontaneous kisses, goodbye hugs but after a few years, this slowly starts to dissipate. Which is totally normal but this is something that your wife misses from those days. So, to keep this spark alive remember that small gestures go a long way. A kiss on the cheek, while she is washing dishes or a hug from behind while she is getting ready, makes all the difference to a woman. It’s a small gesture of unsolicited affection that shows her how loved and adored she is.
She Needs Your Love
Lastly, but arguably the most important thing your wife needs from you is love. She needs to hear it, she needs to see it and most of all she needs to feel it. Say I love you at least once a day. I am the person who says it constantly maybe a little overused but I always want the people I love to know it. Show her you love her by giving her affection, quality time and recognition. Of course, with anything make sure she feels loved every single day by asking her.
At the end of the day, if you are trying your best and present every day, I think you are doing a great job. Marriage is challenging and it takes both parties putting in an equal amount of work to make it successful. I hope you enjoyed this week’s post, if you have anything you would like us to cover please comment below. Until next week, everyone stay happy, healthy and safe!