Happy Wednesday! I hope everyone has been enjoying their week so far. It has been absolutely beautiful here the last few weeks and I have been soaking up all the summer sunshine. While I have been soaking up the sun I have been reflecting on different areas of my life. More recently my personality type. When you are younger it’s all about fitting in and having the right kind of clothes and shoes. As I grow and get older, I have learned it’s less about fitting in and more about finding your authentic self. So, today I wanted to talk to you all about my personality type and why knowing who I am has changed my perspective on life.
Everyone has done the million different personality type tests. Whether it is the Myers-Briggs or the enneagram test I think they all give you some insight into who you are as a person. Do I think it is going to give you all the answers? NO! In fact, the whole reason I am writing this post is that I was very confused for a long time about my own personality. I found that depending on my mood I would score differently every time. So, sometimes my results would be that I am an introvert, while other times my results were very extroverted. Frustrating to say the least. Then I discovered that there is a middle ground of being an ambivert.
The Difference between Introvert, Extrovert and Ambivert
Introvert: is a shy person who enjoys spending time alone.
Introverts enjoy spending time alone and being around people drains them, they are more reserved and process things internally instead of vocally.
Extrovert: is an outgoing person who thrives being around others.
Extroverts enjoy spending time with people as it recharges them, they are outgoing, and they process things aloud bouncing ideas and opinions off others.
Ambivert: is a person who possesses both introvert and extrovert qualities.
Ambiverts enjoy being around people but also need their alone time, depending on the situation they can be outgoing, and they process things both internally and aloud.
“I’m both extrovert and introvert.
I like people, but I need to be alone.
I’ll go out, vibe, and meet new people but it has an expiration because I have to recharge.
If I don’t find the valuable alone time I need to recharge I cannot be my highest self.”
– Sylvester McNutt III
How to know if you are also an Ambivert
Ambivert is not a definitive label it is a spectrum. So, it is where you fall between being an introvert and an extrovert. I love this concept as on my good days I am more on the extroverted side and on bad days I fall closer to the introverted side and that is ok! Being an ambivert means every day is different. I know this sounds a little crazy like we are deciding who we are going to be. However, it is not that way at all it just means that in certain social situations your personality can shift.
Take this quiz to find out if you are an ambivert.
Positives and Negatives to being an Ambivert
- More empathetic than most people as they can see all points of view
- Very flexible as their personality adapts to the social situation
- Intuitive; they know when to speak up and when to listen
- Can be closed off around new people
- Too much time around people can be very draining
- Not enough time spent socializing can result in loneliness and boredom
- Have a hard time asserting themselves
- Constantly torn between going out with friends and staying home alone
I hope everyone enjoyed learning a little more about me and how my personality works. Have you decided after reading this that you are also an ambivert? Comment below and let me know your struggles/successes with this personality type. I am so happy to have been identified as an ambivert, I just find that I understand myself so much more. Rather than trying to squeeze myself into some cookie-cutter introvert/extrovert. Own whatever personality type you are and shine brightly you beautiful diamond! Until next week…