We are halfway through February, but we are going to continue to keep our theme going with our posts. If you are planning a wedding yourself, I am confident you will appreciate Brit’s post last week about our experience planning a wedding. What I would like to share this time is how I proposed to my wife.
The decision leading to the proposal
I’m not going to lie and say the idea of proposing to Brit didn’t make me a little nervous, because it did. Not because I wasn’t sure about the concept, but rather it was something very new to both of us. The thought was running through my head for a few months, starting around November of 2016. We had been together for almost two years at that point, which may seem ‘quick’ for some, but definitely not for me. I knew she was the one for me as we have connected on so many levels, and I have never met anyone quite like her.
Over a few months, I was doing some extensive research on engagement rings. Style, carat count, materials and number of diamonds, to name a few things I had to think about. Brit did make my research a little easier as I knew she doesn’t like anything that stands out too much. In other words, simple but elegant is what I was looking for.
Almost got caught
Eventually, I had found the one, and on March 25th, 2017, I decided to place my order. I ordered the ring online from Michael Hill as they had an ‘online-only’ promo at the time. Thinking ahead, I decided to have the ring shipped to my place of work (that way, Brit wouldn’t receive it), and within a few days it showed up. I had to be strategic with how I brought it home and where I kept it as I didn’t want Brit to find it, of course.
That same day, I brought it home and placed the packing slip/receipt on the kitchen counter as I went upstairs to talk to my soon to be mother-in-law.
P.S. I had asked my mother-in-law for permission to marry her only daughter, which thankfully she said yes to.
I showed her the ring, and she thought of the idea to hold onto it for me as there would be no way Brit finds it outside of our living space. Although the ring was hidden, don’t forget about that packing slip I placed on the kitchen counter. After going back downstairs and hanging out for a while (probably playing video games), Brit came home. She went to our bedroom to get changed into comfy clothes, and I quickly realized she placed her purse on top of the packing slip in the kitchen.
Instantly, I thought to myself that I had ruined it the same day I received the darn thing! Thankfully, it was folded in a way that made it less obvious what it was for. So I put it in my pocket and played it off as if nothing happened.
Planning the proposal
After almost giving away the secret in less than 24 hours, I had to figure out how I was going to pop the question. I went back and forth several times, and I finally decided that I was going to ask Brit during our trip to Arizona in May 2017. Specifically, we had on our itinerary to visit the Grand Canyon.
For this trip, both my in-laws were going to come down with us (as they owned property in Scottsdale, AZ). Seeing as my mother-in-law had the ring this entire time, we decided that she was going to place it in her own luggage and give it to me once we got there. It definitely made it a lot easier trying to hide the ring as Brit and I went down with shared luggage.
Leading up to the proposal day
Brit and I started dating on May 7, 2015, and to Brit’s knowledge, we were celebrating our 2nd anniversary in Arizona. Obviously, I didn’t want to give it away, but I did mention that I had something special planned. Poor Brit waited all day on May 7, 2017, thinking something exciting was going to happen, but the proposal wasn’t going to happen until the next day. After having an ordinary anniversary day, Brit was upset. I had misled her to think we were doing something ‘different’ that day but reassured her to be patient.
May 8, 2017, rolls around, and we start our road trip towards the Grand Canyon. The in-laws came with us partway as they had a tee-time booked the same day, and we had other plans as a group for the evening. Brit and I drop them off, and we make our way towards our destination.
A little over an hour and we finally reach the canyon. This entire time, I had the ring in the box in my shorts pocket. I clearly remember having to be as strategic as walking on one side of Brit the entire time so that she was less likely to see. We aren’t at the Grand Canyon for 5 minutes and she asks me, ‘what’s in your pocket?’ which I quickly responded with ‘uh… well I have the car keys, phone, wallet and I only have two pockets so it looks like there is a lot in there.’ She brushed it off and didn’t ask a second time.
Once again, I thought the surprise was ruined…
The big moment finally arrives
Seeing as May 8, 2017, was a Monday, we figured that the Grand Canyon wouldn’t be that busy. Oh boy, was I in shock when I saw hundreds of people. The nerves were kicking in as I was trying to plan the exact moment. I figured if we kept walking, it would get less busy, and it did. Brit wanted to sit on the ledge of the canyon and have me take a couple pictures. At this moment, there were very few people around, and she wasn’t looking. I knew this was my opportunity.
I had her think I was taking several pictures from different angles, but really I was casually walking up to her to prepare. Quickly, I got down on one knee, far enough back that she could step forward. Didn’t want her falling off the ledge, of course! Finally, I gave her my emotional speech, told her how much I loved her and asked her to marry me. She did not hesitate one bit and said yes!
A lot of people have asked how I proposed to Brit, and now more of you know. I hope you enjoyed my story and maybe found inspiration for popping the question yourself. Choosing Arizona was an easy decision, as it is a place that means a lot to Brit, even before I came in the picture. This day would be remembered by both of us for the rest of our lives.