So, you want to know “should I date my best friend?” But you aren’t sure whether that is a good idea or not. Not to worry! I got you covered, at least from my perspective. The short answer is dating your best friend is fine. But it certainly goes deeper than that. Is it always a good idea? You’re about to find out.
Talk to your group of friends, carefully
I say carefully because I don’t want you to allow your friends to make the decision for you. However, it could benefit you to have that open conversation. It is smart to talk to your other friends about the relationship you are considering entering. You probably already know that you have a lot in common with your friends and it will make it easier for them to understand and accept your relationship. They will also have a good idea of what to expect from you in terms of behaviour. Some things to consider here are:
- Will dating your best friend change the atmosphere within your group of friends (positively or negatively)?
- If anyone disagrees with the idea, take the time to understand why. Sometimes that third-party perspective is something you didn’t think of before.
- If the relationship fails, how would it impact all of your friendly relationships?
Don't force the relationship
Another important aspect is that you should not try to force the relationship. If you push, they will push back! This is not only rude, but it can turn the friendship into a friendship with resentment on both sides. Just because you like someone doesn’t mean that you have to force them into something they don’t want.
While it is true that not all relationships work out, you should not give up and decide that you can not handle the pressure of dating. Keep in mind that the biggest risk in dating is not being able to commit to a relationship. If you need support on this, educate yourself on if you are ready for a commitment.
As mentioned above, when you are thinking about whether to date your best friend, you also have to consider whether the friendship is worth risking everything for. If the relationship seems to be going nowhere, then don’t go any further! If you feel uncomfortable about the situation, leave and move on.
Benefits of dating your best friend
Spend more time together
If the two of you feel a connection with each other, then there are plenty of benefits to being in a relationship with your best friend. First of all, you get to spend more time with your best friend and you get to keep in touch with him/her in a way that you normally would not get to do with anyone else.
Learn more about each other
Secondly, you get a chance to find out more about them and learn a lot about her likes and dislikes.
Learn more about each other
Thirdly, if you two are dating the right person, then you get to experience things together that you never would with a single person.
Grow together with someone you already trust
Also, you get to share life experiences together. Who better to share these than with someone you can really connect with?
If you are dating someone new, though, you are probably looking for a new identity altogether. So if the two of you get along well enough, you will find that it is much easier to let go of your previous identities. This means that you also get to be more outgoing and adventurous, which could be really good for you and your best friend!
Of course, you also need to make sure that you get to know the other person before getting into a relationship. There are many different types of relationships, but it is very important that you get to know the other person well first, best friend or not.
You should also avoid taking this relationship lightly. If you decide that you want to date your best friend and that it is going to last, then do not take your best friend for granted! If you start dating casually, there are no rules as to how often you two should meet, but once the relationship is solidified, there are more rules as to how you should behave when you are together!